Men will be Men?

Rajesh Patel (name changed) is a professional working in Andhra. He was not all that happy the day he left his family, comprising of his wife & a 5 year old daughter, to his wife's place in Gujarat. His wife was 8 months pregnant. He said that he missed his daughter terribly & to pass another one month without having them by his side seems to be a decade! The following evening, he had alcoholic drinks with his fellow colleagues. 

Being a Gujarati, Rajesh was not known for drinking. Also he refrained himself from smoking cigarettes. Now, the point is to drink/smoke or not is everybody's personal preference and I am not representing any personal opinion here. No act is intended to be shown in bad light.

Rajesh's wife, Mrs. Geetaben Patel knew that over the years, Rajesh has developed an attraction towards alcoholic drinks and that he consumes the same only if Mrs. Patel allows to. It was occasional & rare thing though. 2-3 times a month. 

Like any other typical Indian housewife, Mrs. Patel wished that her hubby better refrained himself from what she termed as 'Bad Habits'.

However, staying away from his family, Rajesh began having drinks everyday. Smoking 8-10 cigarettes per day became a routine. There seemed to be no stopping to him. No barriers, no limitations. This continued until the day his wife returned home post delivery. 

Rajesh had thrown away all the bottles & stuffs and took special care that his wife doesn't come to know about the things he did in her absence. Now this can be looked upon in two different ways:
First, Rajesh's love for his wife. He didn't want to hurt her. Hence he hid all the stuffs.
However, the second side of the coin depicts a different story altogether. 

The fact that Rajesh doesn't take into confidence his wife on his needs. Most of the Indian men seems to enjoy doing this. When wife is at a distance, husband being a forced bachelor in the interim; does all that he couldn't do when his wife is around. Now I am none to judge whether how far is that right as am a bachelor yet. But what bothers me is a feeling that how come the husband do it without taking his wife into confidence. Why to betray a woman's feelings? 

And as they- 'Men will be men'! Why? In this regard at least, I see that the overall trust and understanding between them is missing. 

Now that is not what all husbands do. I have certain Mr. Mishra in my acquaintance who is totally opposite to Rajesh. He not only informs his wife about what he did that his wife wont like. This I feel is a good practice. This is what will build the trust & mutual understanding between them. And certainly, that doesn't make a husband henpecked for sure.  

In the end, when we say 'Men will be men', we actually don't say it in a good light for men. We need to change this. Lets be Gentlemen pals!